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Before I start with my post: my darlings, how are we doing? Really, how are we doing? Because I know Quarter 3 wasn’t light work for me. It wasn’t just another season sliding by. It felt like I was once again in training to become the Universe’s strongest again— spiritual, emotional, and even physical. But, that made me even more grateful for the beautiful moments.
Eclipse Energy: Forced Release
Looking back on this eclipse season, I can see just how much it pushed me into surrender. At the time, it felt like everything was slipping through my fingers; routines, control, even the comfort of knowing what’s next. But now I understand that was the assignment all along: losing control so I could finally release what wasn’t meant for me.
This meant I had to let go of certain habits, certain ways of thinking, even parts of myself I thought I couldn’t live without. It wasn’t easy. Hell, it still isn’t. Some days I resisted, other days I cried (ugly), but underneath it all was this quiet knowing: you’re being stripped down so you can rebuild stronger.
And it was necessary, because I’ve been saying I want my life to transform. But real transformation starts within. This eclipse season and 9/9 energy shed light on my insecurities and held up a mirror I wanted to smash in shards. Still, I didn’t avoid it. From setting clearer boundaries, taking up space unapologetically, to finally accepting the parts of me that have been demonized — I’ve learned so much about self-growth, spiritual awakening, and stepping into alignment.
This was all preparation. It was God, the universe, spirit — however you call it — clearing the path so I can finally step into what I’ve been asking for.
My 35th Solar Return
What a celebration it was! My initial plan was to go abroad for my birthday — because I refuse to spend my solar return in the weak summer of the Netherlands. I’ve done Albania, Malta, even the UK (not that sunny, but at least a different environment). I’m a child of the sun, I need the sun.
This year, though, I stayed put for a lot of reasons. And while it wasn’t the how I envisioned it, what’s the theme of this eclipse season again? Exactly: letting go. So I let go of that idea and trusted the flow. One thing I’ll always do, though, is take the week off. Ain’t no way I’m clocking in on MY DAY.
I want to celebrate, I want to be celebrated, and I want the space to relax before and after without rushing back into the office grind.
And let me tell you: it was beautiful. From boat trips with my love, to a surprise private spa day, to my bestiesssssss suprising me for a bottomless brunch (these bitches had me fooled) at Celia’s, to even being kidnapped from the office for my postponed birthday dinner at Da Filippo. I spent the week surrounded by love, drenched in love, reminded of how blessed I am.
She Put Herself Out There
That’s right. I allowed myself to be seen. And heard! Even though I wasn’t posting as consistently as I had planned, I was still putting myself out there in different ways. Your girl had the honor of dancing in the Pride parade, where I met some of the most beautiful souls.
I joined one of the most fun video shoots I’ve ever done (seriously, you need to check out the video’s if you get the chance). I had several photoshoots, and I even got to share the stage with my bae — who just released his first single, go stream that! — doing spoken word.
And you might wonder, how does this fit into reflecting? Well, these moments reminded me not just how talented I am, but also that I deserve to be seen and paid for my crafts. I think a lot of creatives can relate: asking for money for our art can feel uncomfortable. But baby, we are worth it!
When I dance, I give my soul. When I write, I speak from my soul. And when I model, I want you to see my soul. I love every single one of my crafts — and yes, I’ve done them for free for many years. But in this economy?
Locking In
You know I always keep it real. Exposure doesn’t pay bills. Our art, our voices, our movement — they have value, and it’s time for me to honor that.
So here we are. The last quarter of the year. And this time? We’re locking the fuck in.
Not in a hustle-until-I-burn-out way, but in a grounded, intentional way.
It means redirecting my energy where it truly matters. I’ve noticed I’ll show up fully for other people’s projects, but when it comes to my own? I’ll slack. That has to end.
- Taking my creative work seriously. I’m treating content creation, writing, and my other crafts with the same discipline and respect I give to others. No more half-finished drafts collecting dust.
- Prioritizing myself. I’ve learned the hard way that running myself into the ground doesn’t benefit me or the people I love. So this season, self-care and self-love isn’t optional — it’s the assignment. That means rest, proper nourishment, and giving myself permission to say no without guilt.
- Boundaries on boundaries. If it drains me, distracts me, or dims me, I’m not entertaining it. Protecting my peace is non-negotiable and my energy is too expensive to waste.
Q4 is really about moving with intention — every decision reflects the version of me that I’m building. So I’ll ask you this: how are you holding yourself accountable to finish the year strong?
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