Author: Joey Wiel

Random encounter on the train

A few days ago I found myself sitting in the train after a series of events that had my brain all over the place. And even as I’m writing this, I’m still confused as to what had happened but I hope to get some clarity and maybe even be able to share my writings about it. But as I usually do when my brain is all over the place, I journal about it. And it had happened to be the first page of my new journal. I was so thrilled to share my experiences in this new journal, I shared it on my IG as well. Made a little boomerang, y’know. Anyway, I put down the date and start writing the date and the first two sentences of which the last one was literally “What the fuck?”, when an elderly lady asked if she could sit next to me as I had my bag on the seat next to me so I could write on the little desk from the seat in front of me. …

Hello Only me October, goodbye Stormy September

You think we’d learn our lesson whenever we say: oh, it can’t get any worse. We all know the Universe will show you that it can. And that’s exactly what September was for me. Despite it being my birthday month, it was fucking hell. Well, I guess hell would be stormy. And normally, I thrive through chaos. Because that’s just what I do. But this…Nah. We’ve had break ups and breakdowns, turn ups and hook ups, and many firsts. Anyway! It’s October now! The trees are shedding their leaves and I’m taking a page of their book by shedding my leaves as well. What does that mean? It means, I’m ready to drop habits that are not in alignment with the version I’m working on becoming to make room for new healthy habits, which I’ll share more about in another post. It’s time to focus on me. I have been very di(ck)stracted, while others have been focusing on them. Which is a pattern that needs to be broken. Especially, now that I’m newly single after …

Books I’m reading in September

Recently, I have found myself going to the library more and more again. One, because my home gets insanely hot during summer. I’m talking about oven hot; take a shower and sweat two seconds later hot; channel your inner sloth hot. You get my point as to how hot it was getting. And second, well…Because libraries and bookstores have always been my happy place. At first, I didn’t want to get library membership because it’s another subscription along with the endless streaming services we pay for nowadays. Plus, I have so many books at home I have yet to read (Lord knows when I will ever finish those). But since I end up going to the library and reading the books there anyway, I thought maybe if I get a membership, I will actually finish these borrowed books as there’s a deadline. You know how some people need a little sense of urgency to get things done…Me. And so, with my new membership, I have recently borrowed five books that I’m going to be reading …

Wooden letters spelling perfectionism, without the T, surrounded by more wooden letters

Three of the most common mistakes made when starting a new project

You know that rush you feel when you want to start on a new project? You get all giddy like a kid who’s going on a fieldtrip the next day. Excited to get started! But before we get started we do the necessary preparation we often read about and never actually get started on the project itself. Recognizable? It’s because of the three most common mistakes made when starting a new project. Getting stuck on research One of the most important steps to take when starting something new is doing the necessary research. One thing about me is when a particular topic interests me, I will fall into a whole rabbit hole on this particular topic. I am talking about 3 hours of online research, 21 tabs and possibly even 2 new books that I bought and may never read. There’s nothing wrong with doing the necessary research, until it prevents you from actually taking action and getting shit done. Perfection Recently, I was reading a very popular self-help book and discovered quite some errors. …

Cover photo for boozy vanilla iced coffee recipe

Boozy vanilla iced coffee in 5 simple steps

Do I love me some beautifully made frappuccino? Most certainly. But do I also love me some easy to make flavored iced coffee? Most definitely. There are days where I will take my sweet baby Jesus time in the kitchen to make my frapp, like I’m a whole barista. A barista without a coffee machine, but a barista nonetheless. And you know what they say in the law of manifestation: you gotta live it, to achieve it. So, I am living my best barista life in my tiny kitchen sans coffee machine or icemaker. And then there are days where I want to have a coffee that doesn’t take me more than 5 minutes. For days like those, iced coffees are just absolutely amazing. They usually require no more than 3 ingredients: ice, cold brew and milk. Want to spice it up? Throw in some syrup. Want to make it extra spicy? Throw in some booze.  And you got yourself a boozy iced coffee in less than 5 minutes! Alright, so let me get to …

45 Eye-opening quotes from “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck”

For this year, one of my goals is to read at least 24 books. Which basically means reading 2 books per month. The first book I chose to read this year was in line with one of my other goals: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. The reason I chose this book is because -get ready for the cliché- I really want to achieve bigger things in life. However, the thoughts of these things I wish to achieve, in combination with social media immediately get me overwhelmed, anxious and depressed. In that order. To the point that I’ll just have a glass of wine and hide in bed instead. And all because I have too much fucks to give. In all honesty, I hadn’t read any reviews on this book and actually thought it would be another self-help book that would tell me how capable I am of achieving marvelous things in life as long as I cared less about what people think. Boy, was I wrong. Is it a self-help …